In our last two posts we’ve been discussing ways to win with people.
Much of our success in life depends on how well we interact with people. We are relational beings that find a deep sense of satisfaction in life from quality relationships that bring value to us and to the other person.
This is true in our personal lives as well as our professional lives.
In fact, I submit that our level of fulfillment and satisfaction in life is far greater influenced by our quality of relationships than by our financial net worth.
While I believe money can bring you options and opportunities, money without positive relationships does not necessarily bring happiness.
This principle can be seen in third world countries where the people have very little, but still have happiness. Why is this? They’ve learned that positive relationships always trump a bigger net worth.
This brings us to our third way to win with people.
Intentionally serve others.
My wife, Jacque, takes a yearly trip to one of the most impoverished areas of Mexico.
She loves to serve others and displays this principle in an inspiring way.
The first year she went, the team built a couple of homes and a church for the poor. In addition, they put on a carnival for the kids in the village, created a makeshift salon for the girls and brought a dental team to provide basic dentistry.
Last year, the team built a home for an orphanage and a sport court for the orphans to play soccer on and provided shoes for the children. Previously, they had nothing but a dusty field to play on and bare feet to kick rocks around for fun.
Each time she has returned she has brought back pictures that display how happy the people are. They have very little, but often times display more happiness than many people that have much more.
The interesting thing is that many people on the team have commented after the trip that it is the best “vacation” they have ever taken – my wife included.
Because they have learned that intentionally serving others is one of life’s greatest joys and brings a deep sense of success to ourselves and value to others.
Serving others is at the core of winning with people and achieving success in life.
Businesses that focus on serving often outperform their competitors. People that focus on intentionally serving others are likely to have more friends and be promoted at their jobs quicker.
In fact, I have a friend that has been in sales for decades and has found a tremendous amount of success selling by serving. He has consistently been at the top of the company by winning with people by looking for ways to serve.
Intentionally serving others begins with the question, “How can I help?”
Many times we already know the answer to this questions intuitively and can easily apply the answer. Other times, we may have to ask the question to the person we wish to serve.
The great thing about this question is that we can use it in our personal or professional life. It works in every arena of life to bring value to others and ourselves.
It shows we care and in turn causes others to care about us. It creates another “win-win”.
Imagine what your life and the lives of others around you could become if you apply these three principles. Imagine the level of success and fulfillment you could create by bringing value to others.
Be an encourager.
Give people confidence.
Intentionally serve others.
These principles have the power to revolutionize the quality of our connections, relationships and leadership. Start applying them on a consistent basis and begin to experience what truly “winning with people” is all about.
Which of these three principles do you feel is the most important in winning with people?