Every married couple desires to have a great marriage.
The question is not one of intention, but one of direction.
How do you get there?
In my previous post, 4 Things Every Woman Needs to Hear From Her Husband, we explored how men can help create a great marriage by serving their wives with specific words and actions.
In this post, we will explore how women can help create a great marriage through 3 things her husband desires.
1) Affirmation. It can be a dog eat dog world out there. As men, we can get discouraged at times. We can feel a tremendous amount of pressure to provide for our family. Not from our wives, but from ourselves. It’s our job and we want to do it well.
In addition, we have dreams. Dreams to do something great with our life. Maybe it’s starting a business or going for a promotion. A man’s wife can be her husband’s biggest source of encouragement.
Women, you have no idea the power you hold. Words like, “I believe in you” or “ You’ve got this one!” hold huge value and can go a long way. Jacque, my wife, has been my biggest cheerleader along the way with certain dreams I’ve had. Knowing my wife is for me has been one of my greatest joys in marriage.
2) Respect. All men have a desire to be respected. It starts early in life when you see boys clamoring to be the best on a sports team or maybe a young boy’s dream to be a superhero. These are all rooted in a desire to be respected. It’s the way we’re wired.
We like to “fix things” and come in and save the day. All men love to be looked up to for their accomplishments. Women can show respect for their husband with words like, “You’re awesome!” or “I appreciate you for the way you work so hard”.
Women, as a bonus, most men love to be bragged on in public. Sincerely use those kind of words and watch your husband light up. Men will repeat those words over again in our head. I know I do and love it when Jacque does it. It makes us feel like a million bucks and we love you for it.
3) Intimacy. God has designed men and women with a desire for intimacy. Unfortunately, the media has picked up on that and bombarded men non stop with advertisements. Why? They know sex sells. Pornography is one of the biggest money making industries in the world. And they are targeting your husband.
A great marriage has a man that says no to that and yes to you. One of the greatest gifts you can give your husband is intimacy. The book of Genesis in the Bible says, “And for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two shall become one flesh.” Celebrate this God given gift often. It was designed to make a marriage stronger.
These aren’t the only 3 things a man desires from his wife, but they certainly help create a great marriage.
Practice them often and watch your husband begin to look for ways to meet your needs. When each spouse is looking for ways to serve one another, it’s amazing how quickly marriage can become a joy.
The good news is a great marriage keeps on giving. One of the best gifts we can give children is the example of a great marriage.
Keep investing. The effort is worth it.
What is something else that makes for a great marriage?
* This is the second in a three part series on relationships. Check back on Thursday for part 3.
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