I’ve heard it said that 85% of our success in life comes from our people skills.
John Maxwell said, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”
The good news is everyone can learn to improve their people skills.
Good people skills start with the right heart. A heart that genuinely cares about others. This works in business, personal relationships, job interviews and casual conversations.
Here are 5 Strategies To Instantly Improve Your People Skills:
1) Be a Good Listener. We’ve all heard the adage, “God gave you two ears and one mouth for a reason.” People love to be heard. One of the greatest gifts we can give to others is to listen to them. It’s normal to mistake listening for waiting…waiting for your turn to talk. Fight the urge and genuinely listen. Listening shows others we value them and are ready to serve them.
2) Smile. The was a popular song recently that was called, “What Does the Fox Say?” A great question to ask is, “What does my face say?” If we are not careful, we may be sending off a mixed message and not even know it. Especially for more intense individuals, our face may be communicating a scowl when we are really just thinking about solving a problem. Be aware that your body language can communicate even more than your words. If you want to instantly connect with someone, smile more. Even a slight smile tells others you are approachable and sends a positive message. Positivity trumps negativity every time.
3) Give a Sincere Compliment. Positive comments are a bridge to connecting with others. Everybody loves to be noticed. Look for ways to connect with others through a sincere compliment.
4) Talk About The Other Person’s Interests. Everyone loves to talk about themselves and what they like. Talking about the other person’s interests is the fastest way to building a connection. Look for common interests as that engages you in the conversation and builds an even stronger connection.
5) Follow Up. Look for ways to continue to build a great relationship by following up. Bring up the last conversation you had and ask them how they are doing. I have a business friend that would actually write notes from our conversations. He would refer to them the next time we talked about restocking his product. Even though he was in sales, it made me know he cared about more than the sale and that made a big impact on me.
Relationships will always be at the core of who we are and what we do.
Put these 5 strategies to work and I guarantee you will improve your people skills.
Which of these strategies do you feel is the most effective in connecting with others?